30 April 2007

"We love our child. But..."

An article over at MaryMeetsDolly details the differences between parents who love their child no matter what, and parents who would love their child more if she was just...better. I don't get it. Are the second set of parents so caught up on appearances that they would deny their child their utmost love? Listen to the difference:
"In eight years, she profoundly changed who you and I are," Karen told her husband, "and how we live our lives. If she was sitting here, what I would say is, 'Thank you for making me your mom. It was the greatest experience I'll ever have.'" --Karen Horsey

“We underwent a difficult and complex medical procedure for the sole purpose of bearing a child of our own. While we love Baby Jessica as our own, we are reminded of this terrible mistake each and every time we look at her.” --the Andrews
The first set of parents had a child who was born with Cornelia de Lange syndrome, a rare genetic disorder. The second set of parents had a child through in-vitro fertilization. The doctors used the wrong sperm. So, according to the parents, Jessica is a "mistake". They love little Jessica. But...

I can't help but wonder why these folks would feel this way. Why they would not take this precious little girl, look her in the face, and consider her a "mistake." But this is the world we live in. Her difference isn't "convenient". So, she's a "mistake." And these poor people are missing out on loving this child as much as she deserves, and knowing what it means to love unconditionally.